If you’ve just broken up with the man you really thought you would be spending the rest of your life with, you’re going to be in pain.  Not only have you lost the man you love, but you’ve lost the future you imagined you would be having together.  You can’t stop thinking about the world you envisaged, a world with him in it.  So, the first thing you need to do is handle the pain.  How to heal a broken heart?  Coming to terms with this is not easy.  Everything reminds you of your loss; your friends, the places you go to, the things you do, the songs you hear, and so on.  There’s no getting away from it, but if you write heart broken poems, this can often help you to start the process of facing your loss.

You need to face the pain.  Most of you will want to forget about it, but the right thing to do is to face up to it.  You need to think about it, get it out of your system and give yourself time to grieve.  One way of articulating your emotions is to put them into a poem.  It doesn’t have to be a good poem.  It doesn’t need to rhyme, scan or even make sense. The important thing is to use it as a medium to think about and write down how you feel about your ex boyfriend. 

You might start off by making a list of what is going through your head.  It may be anger, frustration, regret or a combination of emotions.  Say what you are angry about and what it makes you want to do.  What is it that you are frustrated about?  What is it that is blocking your way forward?  What exactly do you regret?  Is it what you did, what he did or just that it’s over and you must now get over your broken heart?   Face up to what it is that you have lost.  It may be the first step towards moving on.  

Imagine that you’re talking to him.  What would you like to say?  Would you like to tell him what you’re going through?  How would you tell him how you feel?  What emotions would you like to convey?  What would you like to make him feel? 

Make a list of things that he’s lost.  It will make you feel better.  Itemize those things about him that annoyed you.   How about thinking of all the good things to do with your not going out with him?  You don’t have to share the decision-making process any more.  Now it’s totally up to you where you go and who you see.  You can shake off his more annoying friends and associates.  You won’t have to spend Christmas with his parents and you’ll never have to suffer his sister’s horrible children or her vile cooking.  The list is endless.  Give yourself permission to enjoy life by appreciating the good aspects of your loss and moving on. 

When you’ve finished your poem, read it through.  You might want to re-arrange your ideas.  You might want to share it with friends or on the internet.  You can do what you like with it.  The point is to let your writing express how and what you feel.  It’s really for you, but if you want other people to comment, then that’s your decision. 

Poetry and song have long been a medium for sharing loss, regret and misery.  Writing heartbroken poems to heal a broken heart is a recognized form of therapy which can be very effective.  Who can forget the immortal, ‘If I’d killed you straight away, I’d be out of prison by now’, or the evergreen, ‘How can I miss you, if you won’t go away?’  So, you may not have written a classic, but you’ve begun to face up to the pain and that’s the first step towards dealing with it.     

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