If you’ve just lost the man of your dreams, you’ll probably be spending an awful lot of the day feeling miserable and wondering, ‘How to get my ex-boyfriend back?’  Feeling awful is to be expected.  You’ve just had a terrible shock and you’re probably feeling worthless, angry and confused.  So, give yourself time to come to terms with your emotions.  Don’t let your anger take over.  Analyze what went wrong.  Concentrate on convincing yourself that you are a strong, confident person.  It will take time.  When you have taken control of your emotions, that’s the time to think about how to get back your ex.  How will you go about it?

A good place to start is with you.  Although you will be feeling very low, you need to present yourself in a positive manner.  You need to appear confident and happy.  Your friends will be glad to listen to your problem, but not forever.  If you are serious about making up with your ex, you need to present yourself as someone who is getting on with their life, even though he is no longer in it (for the moment).

If you see him, be nice.  Show him you can be pleasant and civil.  If you appear miserable or aggressive, you will only drive him further away.  If he’s ready to talk, show him that you’ve thought about your relationship.  Take responsibility for your shortcomings, but don’t necessarily take all the blame.  At the same time it is important that you don’t just spend all the time blaming him.  That won’t do his perception of you any good.  If he is willing to accept responsibility for his shortcomings, all the better, but lead by example.  Show him you have given the breakup serious thought and that you have learnt from it and changed for the better.

What can you do if he’s got someone new in his life?  This is tricky.  In the early stages of a relationship, emotions will be intense.  He will be thinking of his future, not your past.  All you can hope to do is to be pleasant.  Being aggressive to his new girlfriend will only unite them all the more, with you as a common enemy.  Be friendly with her.  Show interest.  Don’t put her down.  Show both of them that you are a mature, supportive friend who is still concerned with her ex-boyfriend’s happiness.

Whatever you do, do not resort to trickery of any kind to get him back.  Lying to him will only backfire in the long run and, whatever the reason was for your breakup, he will now think of you as a liar.  Re-starting a relationship based on a lie is not a good idea.  Dating someone simply to make him jealous is also not advisable.  It may serve to convince him that you are totally over him, but it’s not really fair to use a third party in such a way.

If you want your ex-boyfriend to pay you any attention, you need to try to be honest and pleasant.  Show him that you are a kind and caring individual.  If you have been together for some time, he won’t expect you to simply drop out of his life.  You were a big part of it.  You’re not stalking him and you don’t want to make him feel guilty.  Let him know that you simply care about his happiness.  That’s the sort of image you want to project if he is going to take notice of you and re-consider what he has lost.

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