Getting An Ex Boyfriend Back
When working toward getting an ex boyfriend back, it’s easy to follow your instincts and do the wrong thing. Being emotional or possessive or just plain nasty, will get you nowhere. It will only serve to reassure him that breaking up with you was a good thing. It will also drive him further away. Pestering on the phone, constantly e-mailing him and stalking him are clearly a bad idea. Pleading or begging will lose you your dignity and any chance of getting him back.
Instead, consider how you appear to him. A person who is in control and dignified is far more attractive. Show him that you’re doing well. Let him see that you’re getting on with your life. Paint him a picture of a calm, attractive ex girlfriend. When next you find yourself at the same location, don’t demand his attention. Acknowledge him, say “hello” and then go about your business. If it feels right, take an interest in his welfare and show him you still care how he’s doing. However, don’t tell him that his absence has left a huge, gaping chasm in your life that can never be filled. No one needs that sort of pressure. Your calm and caring appearance may get him thinking and wondering about what he gave up. That’s the effect you want.
If you are to stand any chance of getting your ex boyfriend back, you must accept that you have broken up by giving him some space. After all, he’s rejected you. If you don’t back off, it’ll seem as if you don’t understand that you’ve broken up and he’ll have to reject you again. Give him time to miss you. Get on with your life. Don’t pester his friends or his family. Try to avoid the places where you’re bound to bump into him. It’s the best thing for both of you at the moment.
After a while, give him a ring. Don’t be pushy. Keep things light and casual. You’re not checking up on him, you’re just seeing how he is. After all, you’ve probably been part of each other’s lives for some time, so it’s understandable that you will still care for him. Keep control of yourself and the conversation. Make it clear that you’re fine and it’s not going to turn into an accusatory argument, an emotional outburst or a plea for a second chance. If it seems to be heading that way, keep calm, keep your head and round off the call politely. Leave him with a pleasant, positive picture of you.
In short, you need to give him time to miss you. He can’t do that if you’re in his face all the time. He needs to see you as a calm, confident woman; his mental picture of you is most important. Make it an attractive one and, before you know it, he’ll be wondering if he did the right thing in letting you go.
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