If you have been dumped you would probably want to get your ex back. But the reality is that very likely she/he has already started dating someone else. Even if it hasn’t happened yet, you have to be prepared that it will soon. Usually it is a very painful, gut wrenching experience to see your ex partner with someone else. It is especially true if you are still hoping to get your ex back in your life again.

This kind of relationships are classified by many as so called “rebound” relationships. In most cases they are rather short lived, usually they last from a few week to a few months, but some of them work out quite well and end in engagement or marriage.

Do you want to get back with your ex? Than don’t “stay friends” with her/him!

If you are coming out of a long term relationship with your ex and the break-up wasn’t particularly dramatic, your will be asked you to “stay friends” with her/him. There are many psychological reasons for it. The main one would be that your ex still needs you on emotional level. She/he still needs a comfort of having you around. Yes, it is true but not in the way you would like it to be.

Is it really possible for someone to be in love with two different persons at the same time? Is it true that someone can be torn between two lovers?

The most people will dismiss this notion as a pure absurd. But the fact is that they have very basic knowledge of interpersonal relations and their opinion is mostly based on just intuition.

But if you ask a psychologist exactly the same question he will tell you that it is absolutely possible. It is possible to be in love with two different persons at the same time because the individual in question is at different stage of relationship with each lover. It is a classic psychological mechanism of “rebound” relationships.

Right now, your ex is at the honeymoon stage of relationship with a new love interest… your rival. Everything about it is so new and exciting. But at the same time your ex is still at the attachment stage of relationship with you. The new relationship provides a thrill of novelty and you provide a sense of stability. Your rival is a challenge and you are a sort of a safety net for your ex at this stage. Essentially, we could say that on emotional level your ex is trying to make one lover out of two. That’s a main psychological reason for “let’s stay friends” stuff.

If you want a real shot at getting your ex back you must quit offering emotional support and simply disappear from the picture. Let your new rival worry about it. But if you decide to stick around you are actually helping to carry emotional weight of this triangle. You are making everything much easier for your new rival. She/he doesn’t have to be that emotionally supportive because you are still taking care of it. After all, who knows your ex better than you, right? By remaining in the picture you are also giving your ex time to get over the relationship with you. Her/his new relationship is growing stronger every day. At the same time your chances of getting your ex back in your life again… they diminish more and more.

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