Develop A Plan To Get Your Ex Back
You thought it would last forever. You thought it was, ‘The Real thing’. You thought you would die in his arms. It didn’t. It wasn’t. You won’t. Wrong! It’s not over until you say it is. Relationships end every day, and the reasons are varied and plentiful. ‘The whole thing became stale and predictable, he had an affair with my sister, the sex was no good, he wanted sex all the time, he stole all my money, he lost his job, we disagreed about children/politics/religion/ films /furniture’…etc. It doesn’t matter why you broke up with him. Almost anything can be fixed if you approach it calmly, logically and thoughtfully. That’s what this is all about; formulating a plan to get your ex back.
The Pain And Misery Is Real
There is nothing quite like the pain you are feeling now. It hurts just to start the day without him. Everything reminds you of him; the songs on the radio, the smell of bacon rolls, the feel of the Sun on your face, the taste of wine. Not only have you lost the man of your dreams and all that entails, but you’ve also lost everything that went with him, his friends, his relatives, the things you did together, his cooking, his support, his encouragement and so on. How can you return to the places you used to go to together, without thinking of him? How can you watch the television programmes you both loved, but this time, on your own? How can you talk to his friends without thinking of him? It seems like he touched every part of your life, and now that’s all gone. Not only have you lost the world you made in the present, but you’ve also lost the future you always planned to have together.
Where can you find relief from this pain? You can’t sleep, you can’t eat, you’re not interested in anything or anyone and you can’t concentrate. You endlessly blame yourself, constantly asking yourself, ‘What if…?’ You’ve lost all your confidence and you can’t stop thinking about him. You want to spy on him, you want to kill him, you want to go back in time and put it right. If the pain is so bad that you do not feel that you can get through another day, please seek professional help, either from your Doctor or a Counsellor.
The Madness Begins
Then you start doing really daft things. You call him and beg him to take you back. You promise that you can change. You send hundreds of texts. You follow him or arrange to be where he is so you can see him. You apologise for everything and take all the blame. You try to make him realise that yours was the relationship to end all relationships and that you owe it to the fates to get back together. With every word and action you drive him further away. Why is this so difficult? Well, don’t be so hard on yourself. It’s not an easy thing to do. You weren’t taught this at school. There are no courses that you can go on. You have no experience of the right thing to do in order to get your ex back.
The Plan To Get Your Ex Back
What you can do is to think about why you split up. Was it something you did? Was it something you didn’t do? How can you put it right? How can you get him to focus on the great times you had together and, like yourself, long for their return? Consider relationships you have known about, or heard about, that have been fixed. We can all think of people who have split up and then, sometimes in the face of public opinion, got back together.
No obstacle is insurmountable. No rift is unfixable. No problem is unsolvable. You simply have to think hard and approach the problem calmly, logically and with a healthy and positive air of self-criticism. Of course, it is not simple or easy to work out how to get your ex boyfriend back, especially when you are in pain. However, developing a plan of action and implementing it is, more often than not, very successful. Remember, if he really is the love of your life, it is well worth fighting to get your ex back.
Get Your Ex Back
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I had a row with my boyfriend and told him to go and he did. The next thing I knew was that he was going out with my best friend Trudy. I saw them together at the disco the other night and I realise now that it was a silly quarrel and I want him back, but I am frightened that I might lose Trudy as a friend. What can I do?
As the poet had it over fifty years ago:
If you find your sweetheart
In the arms of a friend,
That’s when your heartaches begin.
When dreams of a lifetime
Must come to an end
That’s when your heartaches begin.
Love is a thing
You never can share,
If you bring a friend
Into your love affair
That’s the end of your sweetheart,
That’s the end of your friend
That’s when your heartaches begin.
Hope this helps.
PP
I can’t agree more that every problem is fixable. My girlfriend and I broke up a year into our relationship. Most people would have given up and let it be the end of something special. Not me. I knew I could get her back, and with patience and persistence, I did. And you know what…we couldn’t be happier!